A FEW weeks ago, I wrote about the mental health of our younger people, and the issues they can face.
Some of you have been in touch, mentioning the fact that there are so many dangerous websites out there which encourage our younger people to engage in dangerous pursuits. From websites encouraging unhealthy eating practices, to suicide ideation websites, it can be a minefield out there.
One of the reasons younger people may come across websites which are dangerous is when they are scrolling and searching for some type of connection or belonging. It’s natural; we all like to feel we belong somewhere, I talk about it frequently. This is particularly so with teenagers, as they are developing into young adults, they need to find their tribe, it’s one of the reasons they like to hang out in groups.
Unfortunately, dangerous websites exploit this vulnerability, masquerading as communities that offer acceptance and understanding around unhealthy behaviours. This manipulation preys on loneliness, isolation, or low self-esteem, trapping them in harmful echo chambers.
Let’s face it, we can’t keep our youngsters off the web, that would be impossible. What we can do instead, is tell them about sites that may be of help to them, perhaps if they are struggling, and are not quite sure what to do about it. One such website is www.kooth.com It’s an online mental wellbeing community, it free, safe and anonymous and is for young people aged 10-25. They provide online counselling, advice and support.
Whilst we are on the subject of the internet, I was having a discussion with a doctor colleague of mine recently, who attended an event on the connection between the amount of time people spend on their screens, and the likelihood of it affecting their mental health. I’ve spoken before about how too much time on social media can affect us because of FOMO and bullying etc. However, she raised some points about how the amount of time we spend looking at our screens can affect our ability to sleep, reduce our attention span, and cause a sensory overload. All of these things can affect our mental health.
As people seem to be spending more and more time online, this might be a good time to think about our own use of the internet and remind ourselves of other dangers out there. Be mindful of the time you spend on your own screens. Set limits for yourself and stick to them. It really can make a difference. As adults, we need to set the example. Regularly disconnect from screens and engage in real-world activities. Encourage outdoor excursions, physical exercise, social interactions, and creative pursuits. This “screen-free time” allows for mental clarity, emotional connection, and a healthier sleep cycle, impacting your mental well-being as much as your child’s.
Remember, open communication and trust are fundamental. The internet can be a powerful tool for growth and connection, but we must navigate it consciously. By equipping ourselves and our youth with the right tools and awareness, we can harness the positive aspects of technology while safeguarding mental well-being in this ever-evolving digital landscape.
Always remember, scams lurk everywhere online. Teach young people to be cautious about sharing personal information, recognising phishing attempts, and avoiding suspicious links or attachments. Encourage them to use strong passwords and be alert to what is out there.
A final thought for this week, If you’re already beginning to feel a bit brighter as the evenings are getting slightly longer now. This might be a good time to remind you of the ‘5 Ways to wellness’, it might just help put a spring in your step!
* Building strong relationships with friends, family and community can provide support, belonging, and a sense of purpose. This could involve spending time with loved ones, joining clubs or groups, or volunteering.
* Physical activity releases endorphins, which improve mood and reduce stress. It can also boost energy levels and sleep quality. Find activities you enjoy, like walking, dancing, cycling, or team sports.
* Paying attention to the present moment (mindfulness) can help you appreciate the good things in life and manage difficult emotions. Try meditation, mindful walking, or simply taking time to appreciate your surroundings.
* Engaging in new challenges and activities keeps your mind stimulated and provides a sense of accomplishment. Try a new hobby, take a class, or learn a new skill.
* Helping others can boost self-esteem, reduce stress, and create a sense of connection. Volunteer your time, donate to charity, or simply perform acts of kindness for others.
If you are in any kind of mental health crisis please go to your GP, A&E or call the Samaritans on 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258
* Martin Furber is a therapist qualified in various modalities and an instructor member of Mental Health First Aid England. Email wellbeing@martinfurber.com
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